THE POWER OF A POSITIVE MINDSET
Updated: Mar 12, 2019
Written by Lisa Cybaniak
It seems everyone is boasting how having a #positive mindset is benefiting their life. But, what does that mean, and how do you do it?
Many people think to have a positive mindset means they have to always be super happy and excited about life, NO MATTER WHAT.
Other #emotions, like anger, sadness, frustration and anxiousness are thought to be emotions to avoid at all costs; that if you feel these ‘negative’ emotions, you’re a negative person. Personally, I believe that having a positive mindset is NOT about always feeling positive. Rather, it is about acknowledging and honouring all emotions and feelings, whilst having the skills to turn the tables and seek the opportunity in all our experiences.
WHY work towards a positive mindset?
According to Raj Raghunathan in Psychology Today, up to 70% of our mental chatter is negative! He believes this is down to two very important factors:
1. It’s a defense mechanism, protecting and preparing us for any possibility. That way, when something goes wrong, we are not devastated by it.
2. It’s a #reflection of our deepest self-beliefs.
I’m a huge believer in how our deeply rooted beliefs about ourselves, life in general, and everything in between, govern every decision we make. Every time we catch ourselves saying something like, ‘It’s not going to work out anyway, why bother trying?’, what we’re really saying is, ‘I’m not good enough; I’m not worthy; I don’t deserve happiness or success; I’m afraid of failure; I’m afraid of success; I am not in control’. Until these belief systems are acknowledged, and challenged, change will be difficult.